Every decision a person makes is a brick in the mortar of their integrity. It is often the smaller ones that pile up to determine our path. We grind over the ones we know are big, like where to go to college, what to study, what job to take, whether to keep our boring and disliked stable job, or forge into unknown territory with something more exciting and risky, who to date, whether to stick with the person even if things are rough, to get married or not, to have children, etc. We often feel trapped by the steps we’re afraid to take such as starting a new business, leaving an abusive relationship, having a serious illness, and feel that the decisions are taken out of our hands.
But they aren’t.
The circumstances you are faced with every day are merely a mechanism that fuels you to make decisions that will bring the life you seek further into your core. Accepting responsibility for those decisions and choosing to honor that responsibility is important. Even if the choice is under seemingly disastrous circumstances…or perhaps a decision we struggle to make because it seems wrong. Too often, people make a choice and then want to blame an outside force or person when the result isn’t exactly what they expected or hoped for. Sometimes they freeze, hoping the decision will become more clear. They want things to be easy. Or they have preconceived notions as to what the result will be and accept anything else as failure.
It is not.
The only failure would be to not make the decision yourself but let others do it for you…regardless of the situation (though even that can end up nice in most situations). Ironically even the tough or wrong decisions end up being so very right later in life
My book, Bring It On, is a story about the consequences of making a decision early in life that seemed right at the time…then changing that decision as time passes.
Thomas Ryan grew up with Kathryn Delroy and her brother. Trying to be a good guy, he made a promise he regretted for years. With his legal career soaring, he ends up at a management teambuilding event with Kathryn. Now promises made years ago to protect himself seem irrelevant and the only thing that matters is getting it right the second time around. Especially when her life depends on him. Thomas soon realizes the unexpected and wonderful consequences of decisions made—and remade.
When I wrote Bring It On, I loved the way Thomas took charge of his life and Kathryn’s at key moments. I had just returned from a trip to Alaska to visit friends and family. Some of the scenes in the story are based on my experiences. Alaska is a beautiful, untamed and refreshing place filled with terrific people that make you want to stay.