A: Before the moaning and groaning begins from those of you who know me well, yes, there will be Princess Bride references in this Q&A. Because, for better or for worse, Buttercup and Westley are the measure of fairytale romance for me – yes, even bigger than Snow White and Prince Charming or Beauty and her Beast – and I see this as a fairytale romance question. Really, what’s the point of marriage or long-term relationships if you don’t still get a little giddy getting ready for a date night now and then, right?
I first fell for Buttercup and Westley in junior high; my English teacher was reading a book while we were diagramming sentences and she was so engrossed I just had to know what she was reading. So I peeked, noted the title and looked it up in the library. Our library had the Good Parts version of the book and later that year the actual movie came out. Yeah, I should have outgrown fairytales by then, but I was hooked – a love that even death couldn’t beat? You’ve got to love that as a pre-teen girl! Plus they were all giddy about one another – there was plenty of hand-holding, a reference or two to breasts/muscles and that kiss at the end.
For me, the qualities needed for a long-term, successful relationship are (in no certain order): a good sense of humor (because sooner or later he’s going to do something that will make you wonder if a butter knife is a good weapon), a healthy dose of adventurous spirit (because he’ll know your stories and you his before long and adventure is the only way to keep new stories coming) and attraction, not just to the physical but to the quieter, inner soul of your mate.
So, those are my qualities…readers, what would you add?
–Kristina Knight, author of What a Texas Girl Wants