A. This is one of the questions we get asked a lot! When you’ve been with your partner a while, everyday life can overwhelm the romance, forcing it onto a back burner. While no one expects romance 24/7 for the rest of their lives, investing a little time and effort in creating romantic moments now and then can recharge your relationship.
For me, the best romantic moments aren’t those that are “supposed” to be romantic, like Valentine’s Day or an anniversary. In fact, it can often be disappointing to try to arrange a romantic experience on Valentine’s Day and then not have it go the way you planned — you or your partner may end up frustrated or with hurt feelings, the opposite of what you want!
Being intentional during an ordinary day is a great way to introduce a little more romance into your life. Why not pick up a bouquet of roses during your weekly grocery store run? Or make your partner’s favorite meal on a day when he or she could use some comfort food. Or line up a bunch of your partner’s favorite movies on a day when he or she is under the weather.
In other word, extravagent gestures aren’t needed. But a little intentional thoughtfulness throughout the week goes a long way toward bringing some spark back into your relationship.
— Jennifer Lawler, Crimson Romance editor