Q. In a world full of divorced people, how do you keep the romance in a marriage going ten to fifty years after the “I dos”? Please help. I want my marriage to last.

A. Great question! And one close to my heart. Personally, I got married at the young age of nineteen and have been married to my husband for 17 years. No marriage will be all sunshine and roses like the happily ever afters in romance books, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t or shouldn’t have little moments of happiness sprinkled all through your marriage.

You’re right, today it is much more common to be divorced than to be happily married for a considerable amount of time. It can be challenging to keep the romance going through the hardships and crazy twists of life. The key words to remember are team and partner. Marriage has no room for selfishness. To keep the love alive it is important to never let go of the intimacy that first brought the two of you together. Each and every day my husband and I touch in some way. Hugging, kissing, holding hands, or even falling asleep in each other’s arms. If the intimacy gets lost the marriage will fail. Touch is a powerful thing and I believe the key to a great marriage.

~ Christy Newton, author of Begin Again

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  1. angela_smith

    Great post! I also married young and recently celebrated my 19th anniversary. It saddens me to see couples so deep in love one moment, and end up divorced later. People tend to think once they’re married, the work is done, but that’s not the case. Dating is much harder and requires more work, so why are people so willing to work hard with dating but stop working hard with marriage? Love never stops requiring work, but it can be fun work! And it absoluely has no room for selfishness, on either part! It’s not going to be a blast every day, but taking time out for the little things is so important. Thanks for the inspiring post!

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