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Q: My husband and I can’t agree on how to handle a really big issue. It’s so frustrating. We just go around and around, getting more and more furious with each other. Help!

A: I know what you’re expecting me to say here. Communication? No. Compromise? Nah. Therapy? Nope. Although every relationship needs a good heaping of the first two and possibly the third on occasion, years ago my partner and I kept getting stuck in conflicts of all shapes and sizes and we learned a “trick”...

Q: I love romance novels, especially when the couples do things together, like movies or dancing lessons. I love my husband, but his idea of a good time is watching baseball or NASCAR. How can I convince him there’s a world outside the ‘man cave’?

A: Dear reader, I know it’s frustrating when your imaginary book boyfriends are being more considerate than your own spouse. The one thing I learned from loving a sports fanatic is that compromise is the magic wand. Let him watch his games and you go do something you love. Believe me, when you come...

Q: My boyfriend has asked me to go on a trip with him. We’ve been dating for a couple of months, but I’m worried leaving town together might be too big of a step. Should I go? If it’s too soon it could break us up. What should I do?

A: Trips and vacations are fun! However, I can understand your hesitation because they can also be stressful and long. It sounds like you are skeptical of joining him on the trip (whether it be for business or pleasure) because you aren’t sure you’ll make it out as a couple. You have a rare...

Q: My boyfriend has asked me to move into his house. We both have good jobs and stable incomes. We’re in our mid-thirties, and both of us have failed marriages. He doesn’t have children, I do, and that complicates things. He swears he’ll do whatever it takes to make it work. He loves me and wants us to be real couple twenty-four seven. I really love him, but I’m not sure if this is the best thing for us right now. My kids come first in my life, and I have to think of them. I’m torn. He’s a really great guy, and the kids love him. Any suggestions?

A: The fact you aren’t making this decision impulsively speaks well of you. There are several comments in your question that concern me. You’re not sure if this is the best thing to do. What is it that worries you? Is it your loss of independence? If you’ve been on your own for a...

Q: I’m dating a divorced man with a little boy. He has a minimum wage job, and much of his money goes to child support, so I pay most of the time when we go out. He says he could do better if he only had the right woman behind him. I believe the right woman is me. Should I tell him that?

A: Probably not. It sounds like this man isn’t willing to take responsibility for his own choices and money management. While we all need support in our lives, we each need to have the strength to make our life what we want it to be. Why do you think you’re the right woman for...